Tips for dealing with road rage?

[N17]

Lol I was surprised at first, but I can see that being an asshole is just in your nature

You are the one chasing people down for cutting you off. Who the Asshole?

That’s ok, my apologies for not stroking your ego.

How is this?
You are the only one that matters in this world, everyone around you should just pull over and let you go by.

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[mindo389]

I don't understand the playing chicken "game". But I don't see the need to participate. I've driven large cargo vans and trucks. People hate being behind those or try to get you to hit them for those large lawyer payouts. Music calms the savage beast, but the caveat is there's a difference between something like Nirvana's Smell's Like Teen Spirit and something less aggressive. Self control and relax is important. Get to where you're going safe and have fun. Smile, if nothing else, it makes people wonder what you're up to!

 

[Rapid Red]

I get pretty bad road rage when I'm in my stang and people mess with me like cut me off or speed up by me and merge inches in front of me without signaling and one time I had this idiot kid in a civic try to play "chicken" with me by coming in my lane and driving head on at me!

I've gotten so pissed off sometimes I lost control of myself and tried to chase them down.

In general I've had a lot of problems with emotional control and regulation and impulse control, but I've been working on that. Practicing Stoicism to not let my thoughts and feelings and idiots affect my actions.

What do you guys recommend? And yes I do see a therapist

Being a grown-up helps tremendously and minding your own driving manners..... might be a clue

Most road rager recipients create their own problems with shit driving and is well deserved.

 

[MAGS1]

We have a lot of stupid drivers around here and I’m a bit of a hot head myself. However, I have a wife and two kids so whenever I get pissed off I just think of them. And music helps me too. Around here you never know who might pull a gun or do something really stupid, so that’s always in the back of my mind. My son is a couple years away from driving so I am trying to be more mindful of my reactions to idiot drivers as well since he watches everything I do with the car now.

 

[WD Pro]

A simple car swap would solve all these kind of road rage problems :

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[17Magnetic5.0]

Not going to lie but I got into some road rage myself yesterday, I’m driving down a 3 lane highway and there’s always someone going slow in the left lane who just refuses to move over causing massive bottlenecks, the worst is when you flash your high beams and they won’t move over as if they own the road and just block everyone. If it’s an empty highway it’s fine do what you want but at rush hour traffic when everyone is trying to get home on a Friday it just sucks.

 

[NJMike]

I remember this:

Matt 7:12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets."

It doesnt matter what they did, I am responsible and accountable for my response

 

[Zent]

Being a grown-up helps tremendously and minding your own driving manners..... might be a clue

Most road rager recipients create their own problems with shit driving and is well deserved.

Great condescending bullshit response. You clearly didn't even read the post

 

[Paul McWhiskey]

Nightmaremoon said;

"another good idea is to stop driving in the fast lane. Go drive slow with traffic in the slow lane. If you can do that you’ll calm down. It's worth the extra couple minutes of travel time to correct your emotional and physical health."

Since I got out of the rat race, I have adopted a similar philosophy. I drive just a bit over the limit, usually 4-5MPH. I have no need to be in the left lanes except to pass. Pass me on the right, pass me on the left, hell even give me the finger as you go by if it makes you feel better. I ignore the hell out of idiots and if they are insane enough, I simply push the button on the steering wheel and call 911 to report them. No problem. have a nice day a**hole!

As far as adding a couple of minutes to my travel time? More often than not I get to the same off ramp as "Johnny the Race Car Driver" and maybe only a car length or two behind him/her. I have not one doubt that my whiskey tastes better than theirs when I get home and am done for the day.

It is all a matter of making the choice to not play the game. Life is a matter of making choices and you are where you want to be.

 

[Rapid Red]

Great condescending bullshit response. You clearly didn't even read the post

See your true colors emerge ........ LMAO

So easy it's a crime

 

[Ballistica]

So this thread has gone in a few different directions. It’s not easy to expose a personal part of yourself while asking for help. Kudos to you for admitting you have an issue and seeking ways to improve yourself.

You said it happens when you drive the mustang. Do you have another vehicle that you drive or is the mustang your daily? If other people are the source of the rage (whether through their actions or your reaction to their actions), then it might be beneficial to limit your exposure to them. Side roads, off traffic times or scenic trips where you dont have to be someplace at a specific time.

Like someone previously mentioned, music is a huge influence in behavior. Raging out in the car can lead to a shorter fuse.

It sounds like you’re working to take steps to fix the issue. Best of luck to you!

 

[NightmareMoon]

Ideally you have compassion for the other drivers and want to help them do whatever it is they seem to want to do. Blend in with traffic.

theres no such thing as being cut off, there is only merging and everybody does it. You do it, we do it. Someone merging into the spot ahead of you shouldnot be counted as a pass or cutoff. Sometimes they merge behind, sometimes ahead… but if its someone who approached you from behind who you didn’t just pass 5 seconds ago, then they’redriving faster than your average speed so just let them by.

at times you may not like how someone drives in traffic around you. So get some spatial separation. They they’re faster on average then just letting them go past is the easiest thing. They’ll be gone quickly. Speeding up to get separation from an aggro driver rarely works. Pull into the slow lane for a few, or pull off onto a feeder and sit at a light and breath. If you play aggro games with them its just torturing both of you. Ifind this is easier to do with shitty cars which are probably not insured and which I don’t want to have any car to car contact with. Ask if you’re willing to wreck to prove a point, hopefully thats a no. Most of these people are clueless anyway.

 

[paulm1]

Point and laugh.

I point, but not with the index finger.

OP, another thing yo might consider is to install an in car camera. A friend of mine would do that and post the footage on FB, Youtube, etc. I can see how that would be a little therapeutic.

 

[demon67]

OP, another thing yo might consider is to install an in car camera. A friend of mine would do that and post the footage on FB, Youtube, etc. I can see how that would be a little therapeutic.

Consider the camera to capture someone that cuts it a little too close and causes an accident. It will definitely support your cause if the worst happens.

I wouldn't post the videos. Much like getting angry about it, it's a waste of time and your energy. Take a few deep breaths and move along. People are going to be who they are and there ain't a hill of crap you can do about it.

 

[JoeSpeed]

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