Eritas, go buy a GT4 then. If you don't need this item, or Steeda's, then don't buy. BMR has proven their knowledge and application over and over. You're comparing a car built for a track and run of the mill mustangs built for the strip. Are you really that dense?
Close, your first statement describes a TTA (torque to angle) or TTT (torque turn to tighten) bolt. Regardless, both are considered "discard after use" bolts due to design of bolts.
http://wbtools.com.au/how-to-understand-angular-torque-and-torque-to-yield/...
WOW. That's really all that needs to be said. I was hesitant to believe the hype but this shit is the bee's knees. Granted, I changed the fluid at 20k miles so mine was a bit worn down but well worth the 80 bucks.
Btw, I think Whipple's tune goes into a limp mode when there's a CEL. That could be part of your issue, too. I bet once you swap the connectors and clear the light, all things will be resolved
You can physically poke them with your finger but I don't think you can remove the whole thing at one lol. And yes, after reviewing everything, those are the right specs lol